the youth of today
As I drove back to work from lunch I heard something interesting on Dr. Laura. A man called in, we shall call him Bob. Bob and his family were invited to a wedding. He received an email from the bride inviting him and his family to their rehearsal dinner, to be held at X restaurant. In the email it also said that dinner would cost X amount of money, plus tax and tip.
Pause: Yes, traditionally the grooms family pays for the rehearsal dinner. But we all know that tradition gets thrown out the window when budgets don’t match tradition. And according to Bob, the Grooms family was paying for the wedding itself. Put yourselves in that couples shoes. You can’t afford to feed everyone for a rehearsal dinner, but you don’t want to go sans rehearsal dinner.
Dr. Laura (in all of her genius) tells the guy that he has no right to be complaining because he can not judge them for the position they are in and that he shouldn’t go if he doesn’t want to pay.
Bob asks Dr. Laura (in all of his stupidness) if “this is just how the youth of today is”.
I kept repeating that. I am still repeating that. I really hope there are no Bob’s at my wedding. Because what would they think of the youth of today when they find out that our reception is only appetizers and cocktails!
I wonder what answer Bob was looking for. Maybe he was just looking for confirmation? That thinking this was ok? Was he hoping to hear Dr. Laura say “Oh yes Bob, the youth of today is all screwed up. Throwing weddings without a sit down dinner, weddings without a cake, girls wearing short dresses and colored shoes! It is madness I tell you! Madness!”
Luckily she just hung up on him.
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He must have been old. Now days weddings come in all shapes/sizes. We decided to forget a traditional wedding and ran off to Cabo. We told our close family and said, “if you want to join us, here’s the info, but please don’t feel obligated.” It was a second marriage for both of us and it was honestly, the only way I felt like we could get away from a BIG wedding. Even if we ran off to Vegas, my family would follow. In Cabo we had 35 people and it was more than enough
Haha! Us youth! We are so crazy!
seriously? SERIOUSLY!?!?! OMG… I would have had a mini-meltdown if someone dared say such a thing to me. It’s people like THAT that make us feel bad for not being able to afford more. Boo to you Bob. BOOOOOOO.
Oh how I love Dr. Laura! I’m sad though, she went off the air here in Dallas!!
The only level on which I maybe agree with Bob might be that I don’t really like it when other people decide what I have to spend on a dinner. I do think it’s odd that someone else decides on venue and menu, and you just have to pay (naturally you have the choice of not going, but that’s such a bummer!). This is in contrast to a cash bar, where you can decide to drink a fancy cocktail or tap water.
So I do think it can be a bit presumptuous to ask people to just pay for their own dinner. I think in those cases you would have to find a restaurant with very very reasonable prices.
Just like they shouldn’t judge your financial situation, you shouldn’t presume anything about theirs.
marte: that is true. I would be interested to see where they chose to have their rehearsal dinner. If it was a very expensive place, I can see where Bob might have a reason to be a little bothered by it. I think what got me was his swiftness in converting this brides decision to judge all of todays youth… and to be so annoyed that he had to call Dr. Laura.
What kind of dude calls Dr. Laura anyway?
I see both sides of this issue. I also hate Dr. Laura.
yay for Dr. Laura hanging up on him!!!
Ha! That is funny that Dr Laura hung up on him. I do think it’s a bit odd to invite someone & then ask them to pay for their meal… but like you said, I’d need to know how much the meal was going to cost the guests… The generalization he made, however, is ridiculous!!!
That is so ridiculous. I love that she hung up on him!
don’t you wonder who these people are in everyday life? heather have you ever listened to oprah & friend radio on xm.. dr. oz and dr. robyn smith are awesome! if i wasn’t marrying j, and if dr. oz wasn’t already married.. i’d want to marry him! but also on bob- it doesn’t sound like he’s inthe bridal party, so why doesn’t he POLITELY turn down the dinner invite if he’s that angry about paying?
My problem with this whole thing is that while we’re supposed to allow everybody to do things their own way, why shouldn’t we allow the guy to be bothered by it. It’s similar to the same trend of people putting down/making fun of people’s large expensive weddings by saying that they won’t mean as much as their own smaller, budget friendly wedding. It’s extremely insulting to that person, just as it would be insulting for me to tell somebody that their small wedding doesn’t mean as much because they aren’t going all out. Difference is what makes the world go around. Everybody should accept people for who they are.
I still hate Dr. Laura though.
I’ll accept everybody put her. LOL
our family just about had a heart attack when we told them cocktail & appetizers. Until we said, “well would YOU like to pay $25-55 per person for a 175-225 person wedding?” that shut them up. Plus, our wedding will be at 7pm in the middle of summer… a full dinner closer to 8-8:30pm is just ridiculous.
Though, in efforts to keep costs down for guests – because lets face it it’s costing them to come too… assuming most guests would bring a gift. Especially if they’re OOT guests… In the case of Rehearsal dinner would cost X amount of money, I’d just have a BBQ and tell my guests to bring a dish.
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