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By: Beth

Beth — Fri, 12 Dec 2008 22:50:54 +0000

When I’ve held that role at weddings, it’s usually also encompassed something of a greeter/program distributer role as well as encouraging people to sign the guest book, not strictly a “stand here and watch the guest book” role.

And when the couple has established some sort of an exit item after the ceremony (bubbles, sparklers, whatever) the greeter/gust book person has been involved in their distribution.

Sort of a go-between person to put between the door and the ushers…

But everyone treats it a little differently.

By: TCB

TCB — Fri, 12 Dec 2008 21:41:52 +0000

This reminds me of that SATC episode where Miranda was put in charge of the guestbook and then announced that it was a B.S. job. I agree that people know what to do with a guestbook – unless you have some instructions or are doing a photo guestbook, I dont see the need for someone to man it plus thats one person not really getting to enjoy the wedding as a guest.

By: Jenny

Jenny — Fri, 12 Dec 2008 20:08:25 +0000

If you do decide to have guest book that requires more than just signing a book then be very specific with your attendant. We had people sign notecards that are going to be used in an art piece. Well the area they were originally using was becoming too congested so they decided that they would just pass them out to guests later. That didn’t happen and I didn’t find out until later. Fortunately most of our family stayed over and I was able to get their signatures the next day.

By: Abbie

Abbie — Fri, 12 Dec 2008 19:42:21 +0000

My step-sister had me do that at her wedding… and she only had about 20 people there. Basically, I just went around to everyone and asked them to please make sure to sign it… and then when they didn’t, I tracked them down by the end of the event.

By: Heather

Heather — Fri, 12 Dec 2008 19:19:26 +0000

mom: haha, yes! All you have to do is find a dress and you are good

By: Mom

Mom — Fri, 12 Dec 2008 19:16:57 +0000

I had my future sister-in-law do this … back in 1983 … I guess it was the thing to do. She just stood there and made sure people signed it and maybe told them where to put the gift(s).
I agree it’s sometimes a way to include someone in the wedding, but not really necessary.
We can always have someone walk around with it while we’re all drinking and eating smudges and spills …. maybe not…
I’m so glad I just have to find a dress to wear … ha ha ha … right Heather?

By: Lisa D

Lisa D — Fri, 12 Dec 2008 18:31:24 +0000

I personally think this is one of those really unnecessary things. I have done this gig a few times at various weddings, and it kind of sucks. Unless you feel strongly about having someone do this job, I’d ask one of your reliable bridesmaid if she could remember to put the book out & grab it at the end of the night. Not necessary to ask someone to do it. Sometimes I think brides feel like they need to give you a job so that you feel important… But that is just my 2c!!!

By: Ashley Rose

Ashley Rose — Fri, 12 Dec 2008 17:05:18 +0000

We had some friends “watch” our guestbook table and it was pretty lame people were fine about signing it. But sadly what happened was everyone IN the wedding didnt. Since they were busy running around taking pictures and such they completely forgot to sign it. We just ended up having them sign it after the wedding but still that is what happened with us! Funny I just posted about guestbooks this week too

By: Amy@FianceMeetingYouHere

Amy@FianceMeetingYouHere — Fri, 12 Dec 2008 16:46:03 +0000

I did this for a friend of the family when I was in HS. Wow, can you say boring? I think sometimes it’s a courteous way to include people in your wedding ( I wore a corsage) but honestly, it was really boring and in my opinion unneccessary!

By: Heather

Heather — Fri, 12 Dec 2008 16:43:09 +0000

Andrea: Thanks for the 2 cents!