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EEQ (Engaged Encounter Questions)

by Heather

Good morning! Today I have taken work off in order to get some wedding stuff done.

10:00 AM meet with florist
1:00 PM meet with Samantha (MOH) about shower and bachelorette party
3:00 PM 3rd (and hopefully final) fitting

Since I will be in and out I have prepped this post early, and will post some updates throughout the day. Yesterday I spoke briefly about my experience at Engaged Encounter, the Catholic Church’s marriage prep counseling weekend.  I highly recommend this, or if you are not catholic then something similar, to everyone.  I know that not everyone is married in a church, and that whoever is marrying you may not require pre-marital counseling, so I want to post some of the questions that I found most useful here.  Some of them will be about God and Faith, so if those don’t apply to you feel free to skip them :)

The way to do this is to have you and your significant other answer the questions alone, in separate rooms if possible, and then to come together to discuss.  I hope that these questions will help someone out there :) Not to become sure of their choice, but to simply grow closer and to be even more confident that you are headed into a stable and life long marriage. 

Ok, the first two questions:

1. What specific characteristics do I see in myself that make it more difficult for others to know and love me?

2. Our family backgrounds have a lasting influence on who we are today. What are three strengths from my family that I bring to our relationship? What are three weaknesses from my family that I bring to our relationship?

Good luck!

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7 comments

1 Veiled Vows { 01.12.09 at 10:34 pm }

Thank you for doing this. I’m not Catholic but I think it is very important to open up the communication like this before you make a commitment like marriage. There are important questions out there that you would just never think to ask yourself or your partner.

2 Brittany { 01.13.09 at 8:18 am }

yay! thanks for this! Vince and I have already done ours via email and it was so interesting to see his answers. we are going to discuss them tonight. FUN!

3 Kate@ Kids and Cocktails { 01.13.09 at 9:32 am }

Thanks! Even though we’ve been married and I know the answer to the first, I’m curious about the second.

4 Karen - the Mom { 01.13.09 at 10:54 am }

Do I get to know the answers? … what bad habits of mine do you take into your marriage? Don’t say gossip !!! :O ha ha ha
Sorry for those bad habits you have picked up from your parents… we did the best we could, considering you were such a brat :) Ha Ha Ha …..

5 Heather { 01.13.09 at 11:46 am }

haha no mom, you don’t get to know the answers :) haha such a brat… riiight :)

6 B { 01.13.09 at 12:02 pm }

Gossip is a definite weakness…

7 joanna goddard { 01.15.09 at 9:08 am }

i LOVE this. thank you for the inspiration!

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