it’s just hair
This isn’t my typical post, but I was thinking on the way to work and figured it is wedding related so….
I posted the other day about my hair mishap. If you missed it, I went in last Friday for my color and cut, the same color and cut I have been getting for 7+ years, and the color came out wrong. My amazing hair lady fixed 90% of it, but the lowlights I get are darker and…. not important. What is important is I am not a huge fan of it. Other people say it looks fine. But I am not convinced. I keep trying to tell myself that it is just hair. It is just hair. It will not stop me from marrying B. It won’t stop me from having a wonderful time at the reception, on the honeymoon… It is just hair. I don’t want to be that bride who wants perfection and will complain until she gets it. I have done everything I can to not be called a bridezilla during this entire planning process. It’s just hair.
But you know what? If there is ever a day in a girls life when her hair is more than just hair, it is her wedding day. So, call me a bridezilla, but I am going to go in and get it fixed. I am going to say that no, it isn’t ok.
I don’t have to have perfect hair on my wedding day, but I want it to be more than just hair.
Ok, done with that, have a happy Wednesday!!!
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You go, girl! Seriously, get it fixed and don’t feel guilty for a second.
I totally relate to this, btw… I got a severe cat scratch across my chest less than a week before our wedding (I still have a slight scar, in fact), and I had this moment of saying to myself, “Okay, you have been sane and calm and full of grace up until this point, so it is OKAY to be upset with this right now!”
Hating the term “bridezilla” and everything it’s about doesn’t mean that we’re not ever allowed to freak out, especially when things like bad highlights and cat scratches happen
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Its not just one day … the pictures are forever … so yah, you have every right to want it to be “more than just hair!”
get it fixed and don’t feel bad for one second about it… it will turn out great in the end… things just seem to work that way…
If I were in your position, even without a wedding on the horizon, I’d still want to get it fixed. Because if you aren’t happy with your hair, then you aren’t happy with your hair. Yes, it’s JUST hair, but it’s on your head and you have to see it everyday and know that it’s there and that you don’t like it. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to get it fixed, and it doesn’t make you a bridezilla. You just want to like your hair.
Hair is NEVER just hair…it’s an accessory!!
Plus I think it is worth fixing if you continued to think about, you will be glad you did!
i went in for three trials. do NOT think for a second that you are being a zilla. you just know how you want things. that makes you decisive. you want to look like yourself, no shame.
It is okay. It is NOT just hair. My hair has always been my thing, I completely understand.
So much so that I paid $$$$ to have my hairstylist from college come to my wedding and do my hair and makeup. I also had her cut my hair before the wedding and test out the style I wanted–at the time, I was living 10 hours away so I made special appointments with her at her salon in my home state when I was visiting for my shower, etc.
Get it fixed. It is not your fault…they need to make it right. Also…my hair lady just recommended some crazy conditioner that turned my hair blue and everyone keeps looking at me like I am overreacting…I think people are scared of brides so they just tell us everything is great even when it isn’t haha.
Definitely get it fixed! You do not want to be looking through your album ten years from now thinking, “I wish I would have done my hair differently”. Hair is not something you should worry about on your day!
so not just hair! I always talk myself out of going back to get what i REALLY wanted, and I always regret it. Now is the time to insist that you love it!
Girl- you fix your hair. Do what makes you happy- you are so NOT a bridezilla- don’t even say that word! If you are unsatisfied with your color treatment then get it fixed- it’s not a ridiculous request!
Don’t you worry about what anyone else thinks- you want to look your best and feel your best and sometimes that means doing something that all of us brides who are scared of being called that awful B word are careful not to do- which is complain. But you can complain if you weren’t given what you asked for. That doesn’t make you crazy, it makes you strong for standing up when you don’t get what you expect or pay for!
*hugs*
I can totally relate and once you hear MY story you will think … I guess it could be worse – haha.
Just over five years ago we decided to have a destination wedding in Cabo. We got in a few days early and as people trickled in, we ended up hanging around the quaint pool area sipping drinks. It was all fine and dandy until the night before the wedding … when someone said the dreaded words, “your hair looks GREEN”. I went to the mirror and looked and sure enough … GREEN. The chlorine in the water in their pool had turned my hair green. At first I thought … well … it’s ok … and THEN the little bridezilla in me said, you will be looking at those photos for the rest of your life. FIX IT!
I went to the hotel manager and asked her if there was a beauty supply. Surely there must be … I mean if it happened here, you could get something to wash the chlorine out. No beauty supply there. I fretted for a few hours … and then the manager called me back and said that someone would be there to pick me up at 10 am to fix my hair.
At 10 am … a little Mexican lady picked me up in her car and took me to her shop. We pulled up and there were bars over the doors/windows and I talked myself through it … it’s ok … trust that it will be ok. We went in and she had her two children in there (she was working on a weekend for me – I was her only client). Two hours later … my hair was pretty damn close to what it was when I arrived in Mexico … and all was right again.
In hind site … I could have gotten married with green hair … no matter how the photos turned out … we still laugh at my green hair so really … it would have been ok and the images could have been photo shopped just as easily
I’m freaking out for you! Your hair should be perfect on your perfect day. Good luck! I know it will all turn out OK.
I don’t see anything Bridezilla about having your stylist correct the mistake. She should want to fix it really, this is your wedding day!
It’s totally fair for you to be disappointed about this! If it’s still bothering you and you’re worried about photos, go back and give it one more whirl before the wedding. But like you said, it looks fine to everyone else. I know you’re your own worst critic. Best of luck, Heather!
YOU GO!!!!! It isn’t just hair, it is pictures of your hair that you will look at FOREVER!!!! Don’t feel bad you are so entitled!!!!!
I totally agree with you. You should feel beautiful and special on your wedding day and to me, hair is one of the most important elements!
On your wedding day hair isn’t just hair! You will have photographs taken of your hair that you will cherish all your life. You deserve to have your hair perfect after you have put so much work into your wedding.
I’m a new reader to your blog and I’m sad I missed out on so much! I just spent two hours reading up a lot that I missed… haha!
Hi, Heather!
Really, it’s NOT just hair. Get it fixed imediately! Don’t be as fool as me. I’ve get my hair in purple and all I did is cry. Poor me!
Sorry for the poor English.
Best regards!
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